Toys

By seek_fulfill on Aug 9, 2008 | Reply

Yes. It is a very nasty thing for an adult to do. Your stepmother should be punished for her actions against you. If your father won’t re-act, then take the matter into your own hands. Figure out what to do, I am sure you are resourceful. An eye for an eye, tooth for tooth, etc.

By freyas_kin28 on Aug 12, 2008 | Reply

Damn, way to traumatize a kid! No, nothing like that ever happened to me….I was a perfect little angel, lol. I would never do anything like THAT to my kids either. I take things away for awhile, but they’re able to earn them back with good behavior.

By writersblock2006 on Aug 16, 2008 | Reply

Oh man!
Thats just wrong
Hopefully you wont turn out like that to your kids.

Thats pretty darn terrible.
Bad kids are really the result of bad parenting, and i can only wonder what role your father played in all of this.
But if that happened to me, Id defintely start a covert sabatoge campaign against her to let her know, you cant do that to me.

That is only if dad didnt do anything about it

By Ebenezer on Aug 17, 2008 | Reply

I broke my mobile ‘phone when I was angry. Is that what you call “self harm”?

By miki on Aug 18, 2008 | Reply

that was really mean of her. i would never do that to my kid. but i do occasionally go through his toys and throw out all the little happy meal toys or the broken and destroyed toys. i consider all those things junk, but i would never throw away his action figures or a toy i know he loves or actually plays with.
my mother used to throw mine away because i was making a mess with it in the house. she didn’t do it in my face, but behind my back.

By Nénuphar on Aug 21, 2008 | Reply

Oh, yes. My mother had some serious anger issues. In place of hugs and quality time together she would show love by buying me all kinds of wonderful toys, especiallly dolls and stuffed animals which I came to love as I would her. Every child needs something to love back, if not their parent. Then she would get angry at me and overreact as a result of her own life choices and she would throw things, breaking them on our walls and putting rips in them with her shoes.
Now as a result I am debilitatingly materialistic. I cannot stand to see anything destroyed or damaged, even thrown away. I can’t get over it. New things make me happy and seeing my things get systematically desroyed by my roommates makes me cry.
Please, I beg everyone who reads this, do not ever disregard a child’s impressionable mind!

By AlongthePemi on Aug 22, 2008 | Reply

No, she was acting spiteful and childish herself. I would take a toy away from an older child (7+) and make him donate it but not one so young that they can’t understand. I would teach him that if he can’t appreciate his toys then he can give them to someone else who will. But to intentionally and cruelly destroy the toy in front of the child - no, that is emotional abuse.

By twoodshair on Aug 24, 2008 | Reply

i told my stepdaughter, when we bought the mouse, that if she didn’t keep the cage clean i would put the mouse outside so the cats could get it.
she didn’t believe me.
it hadn’t been cleaned in over a week and i told her 2 times (once in the morning when she woke up and once around lunch time) to clean it before 5:oo. at 4:30 i told her again to have it cleaned by 5:oo or the mouse goes outside.
at 5:oo she was standing by the cage with her hands on her hips telling me ” you can’t take it outside. i won’t let you HAHAHA. ”
she found out differently.
that cat had SO MUCH FUN playing with it.
she was 9 or 10 years old. old enough to know to clean it and old enough to know i wasn’t playing when i said to have it clean.

By sovereign_carrie on Aug 27, 2008 | Reply

There’s two sides to every story, I’m sure we’re only hearing how horrible your step mom is and not how horrible you were to her before she did this, as you mention it was a punishment. Yes, I would throw away my childs toys if they refused to put them away or were otherwise intentionally disrespectful to them and me. If they don’t respect their toys that I spent MY money on to purchase for them, then I see no reason for my money, time, and purchase to be disrespected. Right into the garbage bin they go. Nothing of yours belongs to you. Your parents spend THEIR money on items for you.

By flushing06 on Aug 31, 2008 | Reply

Nothing like that ever happened to me. Stop being such a bad little brat and maybe your toys will stop being destroyed.

By Jessie P on Sep 2, 2008 | Reply

No, that’s cruel. I have taken toys away for a time, but never destroyed them.

I did work at a childrens’ home once and another lady I worked with stomped on a kid’s watergun when he wouldn’t sit still in time out.

By kristin c on Sep 3, 2008 | Reply

No, my toys were never destroyed like that.

I think there are more effective ways to discipline a child. It is acceptable to put a toy in “time out”, in other words, to take away the toy until the child starts behaving/ stops misbehaving.

Destroying toys like this is too harsh and could be considered abusive.

By aunt susu on Sep 5, 2008 | Reply

My gosh - what do you do to make her so mad??? If you really like your toys, maybe you should make sure they are all picked up and put away in your room (or wherever they belong). I know my three kids used to drive me crazy with toys all over the house until I started telling them that I had picked up whatever they had left in the living room and threw it away. Boy did they start making sure all their toys were put away properly. I then took down the box I had hidden in the garage and gave them back their toys and they loved me and loved their toys and I never had to worry about a messy house again!!